It's been awhile

Haven't had a lot of time to post recently. A lot has been going on over the last few months. I developed a strong internet addiction, joined a ninjutsu class, and can now kill people remotely with the power of my sleep restricted mind. Yeah. It's pretty sweet.

I'm going to make an active attempt to try and update this page more regularly. Expect a few more posts on game, pretentious social commentary, and the occasional unadulterated incomprehensible-jargon-laden rant.

Now here's a link to a Wiki on a tiny man who's accomplished more in life than you have...without HANDS, FEET, or THIGHS. WTF.

Game: The Sequel

Annoying misconceptions II:
more quotes that deserve to be taken out back and ended

no. 2 "Iono what to do! That girl is so hot! I'm gonna go buy her a drink!"
no. 3 "Real players don't buy girls drinks!"

You might be thinking to yourself. "Dude...those quotes are like..........opposites....or something?
So one of them should be right....right?" WRONG. It all boils down to a question of application, and a good chunk of guys don't know when or how to buy a girl a drink.

During the timeline of any successful attraction, its a pretty good idea to start off by not broadcasting any kind of sycophantic attention or bending over backwards to meet her wants. That means not trying to buy a girl's attention or time. If you just met a girl, don't hold her purse. Don't buy her a drink. She isn't your friend and she isn't going to start liking you just coz you've demonstrated your ability to purchase beverages or serve as a coat rack. If she wants that kind of treatment she must earn it. Don't be a tool and demand a kiss or a date in exchange if you just met. Make it something fun and unusual. Any sort of game or qualifier will work well here.

So what's wrong with buying a girl a drink? So what if she didn't earn it? BECAUSE, if the girl is really attractive enough to be worth your time, she gets approached continuously. She gets drinks for free every night off chumps who have nothing else to offer. Not only will she assume that you're just as much of a loser as those other guys, she will probably just take your drink and then ignore you. In the end, you're really just digging your own grave.

Well, I take that back. This approach will work if:
a) she's there to get laid (rare)
b) she's drunk off her ass AND alone (more rare)
c) she's actually a he. From Thailand. (its already happened to you or someone you love)
d) all of the above (Jackpot!)

So what's my beef with quote no. 3. Having a strict: "If vaginas, then no drinks" mental script makes you a cheapskate, mid game. Of course, avoiding the tab isn't an insurmountable obstacle and you could work your way around it--make the girl pay for everything. Even after you start dating her, its doable. But that makes you a parasite, not a player. Cough up the $10 and get the girl something that tastes like corn syrup and tonic water, scrooge.

to be continued...

Game

Annoying misconceptions part I:
"Nice guys finish last" and other phrases that need to be shot.

I heard a guy---okay maybe I was eavesdropping on the bus coz I had run out of reading material. Petty semantics. Whatever. Anyway, he quoted this cliche to his friend. "If you want to get a woman, you need to be a jerk". LIES AND BULLHONKY.

Women hate jerks. If I were to go out and openly mock a girl for anything longer than a minute, she would probably follow me home and key my car if she wasn't already too busy punching me with her tiny fists.

So why does it work for some guys? Coz they're not making as many mistakes as your average bloke. Assholes, for whatever reason, do not focus on what other people want. They don't consider what the girl would want, they don't second guess themselves. They're in the business to satisfy their own agenda and it doesn't really matter who gets hurt in the exchange as long as its not them. That's why they're assholes. Duh. If they're attracting women, it also means that they've know what the average girl's threshhold for verbal abuse is and have at least learned enough to back off if they see the warning signs: lack of eye contact, closed posture, throbbing veins in the middle of the forehead. In short, they're jerks in smaller, more acceptable doses around the women they want to attract. Devious.

This is what your typical jerkwad won't do (learn from this):
+ fear insulting a girl he just met. If you're afraid of losing a girl you just started talking to, chances are you've already lost the game. At best you'll come off as friend material---at worst, you won't even make it past her b**ch shield and you'll get blown out of the water.
+ smother his girl with gifts, phone calls, texts, emails, pokes, and loving faxes.
+ pay attention to how other people perceive him. Otherwise he wouldn't be okay with being such a monumental tool. This also means he's okay with stepping on other people's toes to get what he wants and this comes off as confident and in control > he becomes the alpha male of the group and women eat that shit up.
+ lose attraction. This is a big one. Since your average ass is going to be doing things to drive his girl away from him, this actually works to his favor. Every time the girl comes back to him or forgives him, she's giving herself a mental hernia from the effort she's putting into that relationship---she's investing that much more into it. The more investment in the relationship, the more she feels like she's leaving behind if she initiates a breakup. That means she becomes less likely to leave him as the timeline continues. Ever run into that girl who's dating an alcoholic who only hooks up with her on weekends and plays WoW for the other ...whatever 5x24 hours is? Now you know why she can't leave.

I'm not advocating that you start fights with your girl to drive her away so she'll NEVER EVER leave you. I'm suggesting you don't wait hand and foot on her or she'll take you for granted very very quickly.

A guy can still be nice and be attractive to women, but it definitely becomes a numbers game rather than a skill if you start off your interaction by trying to nice the girl to death. You don't have to be a dick to win over the girl of your dreams, you just have to learn when to be nice. Ideally this takes place after you've already done something to attract the girl. Once you've proven that you're actually worthy, being a nice guy will win you points. Just make sure that its not the only thing you do. And if you are determined to be a jerk, then tone it down and mix in some variety of cuteness. Its like girl crack.

Seriously. Try it.

To be continued...